So, I'm a white guy... And yes, I like Vietnamese women. I would not call myself an "asianphile" or anything of that nature, as I like girls from many races and am not exclusive about which races I date. In fact right now my #1 crush is a white girl who lives 2000 miles away. So please spare me the "you have yellow fever" comments :)

Anyway, I just stumbled across VietSingle.com. Never in my life have I seen a website with so many beautiful single women living within range for me to date (San Diego, CA). Sure there's myspace and garbage like that, but it's hard enough just determining who's really single on there. Only downside to VietSingle is they're all Vietnamese, which is great in itself but I have a feeling many of them are on there to meet other Vietnamese without getting a bunch of unwanted emails from white guys.

So my question is, would it be wrong of me to go on VietSingle and start emailing all these hotties? What percentage of the girls on there do you think would be interested in meeting a white guy via the internet? And what percentage would find it highly annoying, as if I infiltrated a private club to which I am clearly not invited?

It is SO tempting... I very much want to date many of the girls I see there. It would be rather difficult for me to meet girls like that via conventional means. My occupation and typical activities don't find me surrounded by Vietnamese women very often.

Love to hear what you all think. Thanks.

You don't need permission. You to be a good person, honest and supportive. Most Viet people are open minded. Make sure you can speak some Viet. It helps people to know that you are interested in their culture and them and not just bang, bang like USA history with Viet Nam. Good luck.

I just took a look at that site you mentioned and uh most of those pics seem to be done in one of those beauty parlour studio or photoshopped. I don't think those girls look anything like that in real life but if you want to take a chance be my guest. lol

Interesting! Within only a few hours, there are two topics from supposedly two different white guys from allegedly two different places who are looking to hook up with Vietnamese women. Very suspicious!

Haha, no I'm not the other white guy... The guy who posted his pics right? No, I'm very much not that type of guy.

I also noticed the photoshopped model-shots you guys are referring to, but if you really dig through the profiles there are lots that are just normal photos of normal girls. And a whole lot who just didn't post any pictures. I'd consider emailing some of them too to find out more.

And no, I can't speak any Vietnamese. I'd like to learn, but not enough to actually do it on my own. Again, I'm not on a mission to meet Viet women above all else. Yes, the ones I've known have been among the most fun, interesting, and beautiful girls I've met, but I'm not set on meeting a Viet girl above all other races. So taking the time to learn Vietnamese is a little too much effort just for this cause. If I were to take your advice, I should also learn Japanese, Spanish, and a number of other languages as well.

I will however be visiting Vietnam soon on vacation. So I might learn a bit more about Vietnamese culture while I'm there. I have some Vietnamese friends, so I can ask them also. I just wanted to get a wider sampling of opinion from you all on here. Also, any tips on how to meet girls in Vietnam are appreciated as well :) Thanks all.

The most important thing is that you be a nice, sweet, friendly guy who is good to have around and that you treat everyone fairly - If you are good looking, that doesn't hurt. As for learning Vietnamese culture, you can always read up on it in English. You are probably much better off spending your limited time getting a feel for Vietnamese culture, before you fly off to Vietnam. You should learn a few survival Vietnamese phrases, such as "I need help" or "Can you speak English?" As for getting yourself introduced to Vietnamese women, I wonder why you haven't asked your Vietnamese friends if you haven't already done so.

As everyone else stated, if you're a good guy with good intentions, I don't see why you should not write and contact those women that you come across on vietsingle.com. *Btw, there are also quite a few asian women on yahoo, that seems to be more openminded regarding dating outside their race *

Re. vietsingle, remember that this is the internet, you should not be too trusting, a lot of the pics I see on that site have been taken from modelpics and such.

Why don't you create a profile yourself ??? let them come to you instead

If you are serious at meeting Vietnamese, go to Viet Nam or Vietnamese communities. Anything online is a chance you take. I also don't want to post my pictures up online too. So there is a chance that people are shy but open to meeting nice people. You still have to be careful and use your sense.

The culture of VietSingle.com... For Viets only?
No , It's Not . It's For Everyone ; Even though majority of its profiles are in Vietnamese & a lot of the girls listed living in Vietnam .
Some of the photos actually ... are not real photos of members , just to get easily noticed , more chance to get well acquainted with the individual by first impression in the days of Avon , Claire , Elle , etc . " Globalizm "

i think you guys scared him. lol.

You have yello-- ... Damn it.

Thanks again for all the advice. I must say you have a very friendly and supportive online community here. I will try to research more about Vietnamese culture before my trip... I'll probably be spending some time in a number of different Asian countries, perhaps a week or so in each. I'm not familiar with any of them, so there's plenty for me to read up on!

curious_outsider:

What country do you live?

We are supportive of each other and I don't consider you as an outsider.

Don't worry I'm a nice guy. I won't say you have the yellow fever like some people here who said you have the yellow fever. It's nothing wrong with having the yellow fever. I don't have a problem w/ people with yellow fever. So people, whether the man has yellow fever or not, please stop the yellow fever comments. It's rude to make yellow fever comments. There! that should stop ppl from making yellow fever comments! You're welcome Oudsider and welcome to the forum.

Sorry but you sound like those guys who say "I'm not racist but ... [following with a racist comment]"

Read the tour guide books for history up to about the period of the French enslavement is factual. After this period the history is all twisted. If you want to know why Americans were in Viet Nam go to controversial forum.


The centre of good development for Asia?
Japan, Korea, China, Thailand, Indo? Where do people say it is?

http://www.asiafinest.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=77715



Classic how they make the love of another culture and people a sickness, yellow fever, black fever....That is how they look down on people and how wars started, great crusades, witch hunts etc....

Vietnam's culture is about calling people brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles, about treating people like a memeber of a family. That was why we could be the centre of good development and why they wanted to destroy it.