I have been to over six Vietnamese weddings including my brother's and sisters' and all of them went through the same routines.
Just out of curiousity, any of you plan to marry like that someday?
I know my parents would want to me but I don't think I would want to.
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You must follow your tradition. It's only a day or two.Then the processing will be over.
It's what your ancestors has done for the last hundreds of years. Besides, it's kinda fun don't you think? Don't be too westernised and lose your roots. 
QUOTE (Nam Quoc Son Ha @ Jul 1 2004, 07:25 PM)
It's what your ancestors has done for the last hundreds of years. Besides, it's kinda fun don't you think? Don't be too westernised and lose your roots.
yay , i agree , dont EVER lose ur roots . Well i cant stop u of what to do with ur future wedding but think twice before u do it
Don't need a second thought . Vietnamese must be Vietnamese. And agreed with Nam Quoc.
QUOTE (devilish @ Jul 1 2004, 05:15 PM)
I have been to over six Vietnamese weddings including my brother's and sisters' and all of them went through the same routines.
Just out of curiousity, any of you plan to marry like that someday?
I know my parents would want to me but I don't think I would want to.
Just out of curiousity, any of you plan to marry like that someday?
I know my parents would want to me but I don't think I would want to.
I say do Vegas style man. Drive thru and you're done.
Traditional too damn tire.
Friends, during my recent trip back, I had the fortunate opportunity to attend my cousin's engagement ceremony (lễ hỏi).
During the event, the future groom's mom made a very sentimental (almost tear-jerking) speech.
I was very lucky to ask for a copy of it & would like to share it w/ u guys in it's full text:
Hai con thuong yeu,
Nghi toi cai ngay quan trong nay cua hai con, nguoi lam cha me nay cung tran tro khong yen.
Theo truyen thong va phong tuc Viet Nam, le hoi la su chinh thuc cong nhan su thong gia giua hai ben dang trai va dang gai, sau do to chuc tiec cuoi la de cho ba con va be ban duoc chung vui. Cho nen, hai con nen ghi nho nhung y niem sau day ma cac nguoi lam cha lam me muon nhac nho cac con trong cuoc song lua doi ma hai con da tu nguyen ket hop (may man thay, hai con lai la nhung nguoi thuan tuy Viet Nam, biet nghe, biet noi, biet doc, biet viet va hieu duoc tieng VN, nhu vay thi cai truyen thong van hoa cua nguoi VN se nho hai con ma duoc tiep noi them len trong viec tao dung len cai mai am gia dinh nay).
Dung vay, cai nen tang gia dinh la mot cai dao lon cua nguoi Viet Nam chung ta (ngoai cai dao tam linh phai noi theo Chua va Phat). Muc dich cua cuoc song lua doi la de tiep noi giong sinh mang cua to tien boi nhung the he con chau sau nay. Vi the, Ba Ma muon nhac nho cho cac con bon dieu sau day:
Thu nhat: Hay song doi song hang ngay sao cho xung dang voi dao duc va ky vong cua to tien, noi giong.
Thu nhi: Hay nuong tua nhau, xay dung cho nhau bang tinh thuong, su tin cay, su hieu biet va long kien nhan.
Thu ba: Hay luon nhac nho cho nhau rang, su trach moc, hon gian va ly luan chi lam hao ton hoa khi va khong giai quyet duoc gi. Chi co su thong cam va long tin cay moi boi dap duoc hanh phuc va lam cho mai gia dinh thanh mot noi chon an binh, em am.
Thu tu: Hay tam nguyen rang, trong doi song hang ngay, luon luon don het tam luc va phuong tien de xay dung the he con chau cua chung ta trong tuong lai.
Hai con thuong, nhu vay, truoc khi cac con dat chan tro lai nuoc My ky nay, hai con da la vo chong roi. Tiep theo la 1 cai le cuoi de tang phan vui ve cho ba con va cac ban be. Ba Ma uoc mong rang, mot lan nua, cac con cung se duoc lay truoc ban tho cac vi Phat, Chua, truoc ban tho to tien cung gia dinh hai ho. Co dau va chu re se kinh can lam le va long trong trao doi nhung loi uoc nguyen dep de. Nghi le thieng lieng nay, lai mot lan nua, cac con se huong duoc phuoc duc tu cac tien nhan (to tien, ong ba, cha me...).
Ba Ma hon cac con.
During the event, the future groom's mom made a very sentimental (almost tear-jerking) speech.
I was very lucky to ask for a copy of it & would like to share it w/ u guys in it's full text:
QUOTE
Hai con thuong yeu,
Nghi toi cai ngay quan trong nay cua hai con, nguoi lam cha me nay cung tran tro khong yen.
Theo truyen thong va phong tuc Viet Nam, le hoi la su chinh thuc cong nhan su thong gia giua hai ben dang trai va dang gai, sau do to chuc tiec cuoi la de cho ba con va be ban duoc chung vui. Cho nen, hai con nen ghi nho nhung y niem sau day ma cac nguoi lam cha lam me muon nhac nho cac con trong cuoc song lua doi ma hai con da tu nguyen ket hop (may man thay, hai con lai la nhung nguoi thuan tuy Viet Nam, biet nghe, biet noi, biet doc, biet viet va hieu duoc tieng VN, nhu vay thi cai truyen thong van hoa cua nguoi VN se nho hai con ma duoc tiep noi them len trong viec tao dung len cai mai am gia dinh nay).
Dung vay, cai nen tang gia dinh la mot cai dao lon cua nguoi Viet Nam chung ta (ngoai cai dao tam linh phai noi theo Chua va Phat). Muc dich cua cuoc song lua doi la de tiep noi giong sinh mang cua to tien boi nhung the he con chau sau nay. Vi the, Ba Ma muon nhac nho cho cac con bon dieu sau day:
Thu nhat: Hay song doi song hang ngay sao cho xung dang voi dao duc va ky vong cua to tien, noi giong.
Thu nhi: Hay nuong tua nhau, xay dung cho nhau bang tinh thuong, su tin cay, su hieu biet va long kien nhan.
Thu ba: Hay luon nhac nho cho nhau rang, su trach moc, hon gian va ly luan chi lam hao ton hoa khi va khong giai quyet duoc gi. Chi co su thong cam va long tin cay moi boi dap duoc hanh phuc va lam cho mai gia dinh thanh mot noi chon an binh, em am.
Thu tu: Hay tam nguyen rang, trong doi song hang ngay, luon luon don het tam luc va phuong tien de xay dung the he con chau cua chung ta trong tuong lai.
Hai con thuong, nhu vay, truoc khi cac con dat chan tro lai nuoc My ky nay, hai con da la vo chong roi. Tiep theo la 1 cai le cuoi de tang phan vui ve cho ba con va cac ban be. Ba Ma uoc mong rang, mot lan nua, cac con cung se duoc lay truoc ban tho cac vi Phat, Chua, truoc ban tho to tien cung gia dinh hai ho. Co dau va chu re se kinh can lam le va long trong trao doi nhung loi uoc nguyen dep de. Nghi le thieng lieng nay, lai mot lan nua, cac con se huong duoc phuoc duc tu cac tien nhan (to tien, ong ba, cha me...).
Ba Ma hon cac con.
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